Wednesday, September 07, 2005

Are you kidding me???

So now, on top of everything else, we have temporary roommates. Nice huh? Irrisponsible mom left her hubby, and has no where to go, so being the nice people we are, we let her and Austin stay here. I just couldn't let her not have a place to stay with the baby. If it was just her that would be one thing.....

Apparently, her dh was cheating. She came home from working over night, and her son was asleep in the crib, her dh no where to be found, and 2 drunk people passed out in her living room. She, of course, went nuts and hunted him down. He then told her that everything she thought she knew about him was a lie, and then accused HER of cheating, and said he was getting a gun and going after several people that she had supposedly slept with.

Great guy, huh??

So she called the cops, who did NOTHING, and wouldn't even give her an escort to get some of her things. Her dh took the car that is running (she has another car, but it's broken down, and he was supposed to get it fixed) and refused to give her the carseat. She ended up taking Austin to a friend's, and then that friend found a neighbor that had kids that had outgrown their carseat, and they borrowed that one so they could bring Austin to me (she still had to go to work with all of this going on). They brought the baby to me, and he was in a booster carseat, which is NOT right for him, so the guy that brought him to me and I went to the exchange and got her a new carseat and installed it in my van.

So I have no idea how long she will be here. Dh and I haven't even had a chance to REALLY discuss things. I do know that there is no way we will be able to feed her etc, so she WILL have to contribute some. This is just totally insane. Out of the 5 years (almost 6 now) that dh and I have been married, we have lived together without someone else for MAYBE a year of that. UGH.

Oh and so now if I need to go anywhere, I have 2 babies to deal with, and guess what?? They are repaving our section of the parking lot. So right now I have NO idea where dh moved my van. It is at one of the other buildings, but who knows which one. Have I mentioned I miss my house???????????


At 7:58 AM, Blogger Lorem ipsum said...

Yikes. Have you called a domestic violence hotline? They may be able to give you pointers or even find her a place to stay. They'll also give her advice and guidance that the cops did not.

I know people who have had friends stay with them 'for a few days' that turned into years. Literally. So please do something now, while you have a bit of sanity! And she's in such a whirl right now, a little more whirling shouldn't hurt.

Hang in there!

At 3:53 PM, Blogger Kathy McC said...

I agree with Lorem. As uncomfortable as it may be for you to be up front with her, you MUST help her find somewhere else to stay ASAP. Otherwise she may never leave, and you'll be raising her child in addition to yours.

God bless you for being such a good person...I hope it all works out soon.

At 4:21 PM, Blogger Jill said...

You really ARE an amazingly patient and kind person. You need to bring out tough Julie and do what Lorem said. In the end, giving her the gift of independence will be her most valuable asset.

Unfortunately, when you have kids, falling into a heap just isn't an option, much as she might want to. So don't let her think she can.


Post a Comment

<< Home