Sunday, September 11, 2005

Just put the boys in bed. Please please please please let Evan actually sleep through the night tonite. The past 2 nights have been rough. Evan has had this mystery fever off and on for the past 3 days. It started Friday right around 4:30 in the afternoon, and he got a rash on one side of his face out of nowhere. Of course this was after the pediatric clinic he is supposed to go to is closed, so I took the wait and see approach. The rash went totally away, and the fever lowered, so I figured he was fine. Well he has gotten the fever at some point every day since. No other symptoms except not sleeping well, and he gets clingy while he has the fever. When it goes away, he is fine again. God I wish he could just tell me what hurts, if anything.....

On the irresponsible mom front, I just can't get her to see what she does can really hurt her if her dh decided to use it. She has been here since tuesday and has gone out to a club TWO of those nights. Yes it was after her son was in bed, and yes he was safe, but it's still not a good idea. It would be very easy for her dh to say that she would rather go out than take care of her son. Her theory is that she doesn't go out unless she knows her son is well taken care of. Ugh, grow the hell up.

And the thing with her going out means she doesn't get much sleep, so the next day she is tired. So after she gives him his bottle, she sits him on the floor and then SHE goes to sleep. So guess who takes care of her kid while she naps??? Well, today, when he was on the floor crying, I took Evan and went upstairs to my room. There is no way that I am going to be punished because she is tired from going out. Hell, I didn't get much sleep either, but that is because I was here taking care of my child (like I should be) while he was waking up in the middle of the night. She works overnight tonite, so I guess she will expect me to take care of him all day again tomorrow. Not happening.

There IS good news in all of this though. For one thing, dh and I had a talk and decided that while she was here, we will give each other the benefit of the doubt. By that I mean that we both know that having her here is adding ALOT of stress to the situation, and if we get snappy with each other (and we HAVE) then we both pretty much agreed to let it go. I am totally impressed at how well we have managed to let things go. Really impressed.

More good news, she won't be here much longer AT ALL. She should be gone by the end of the week. Her and dh's command found out she is staying here, and they have a problem with that. See dh outranks her, so it's a conflict of interest. I hate how the Navy gets so involved with people's lives sometimes. He basically got called into the office and chewed out for helping her. They said he should have called them and let them know what was going on. Ummm hello, she told them what town she was staying in, and has also been riding to work every day with dh. Gee that is hard to figure out. So they have ORDERED her to move into base housing, and are making her get her car fixed (the Navy will give her a loan). Usually it takes MONTHS to get into base housing, but they are going out of their way for her, and she is pissed because she doesn't want base housing on THAT base. She would rather live at Little Creek because that is closer to her friends.

Can ya tell she annoys the hell out of me??????

Now off to try to catch up on blogs, I am soooo out of the loop!!!


At 9:32 PM, Blogger Jill said...

My GOD! She is spoiled rotten by the Navy and is still whinging! In the outside world, in her situation, no bank will give you a loan like that and a house that is presumably clean, safe and in good repair in record time? She's annoying me too! Plus, with the loan to fix the car she'll be able to drive to her friends'. Does she have to pay much rent on the base? Do they have any childcare on base?

Anyway, you guys have done so well to out up with it. Your poor DH copping it in the neck for her as well - ugh! Not long now....breathe:)

At 9:36 PM, Blogger Julie said...

Jill, it's base housing, so it's totally free. She wont even have to pay for utilities. (for those of us that don't live on base, we get a housing allowance which is SUPPOSEDLY enough to pay our rent and utilities)Her son will be enrolled in 24 hour care, where she can drop him off at any time since their work schedule is so weird. The childcare is based on her rank and pay so it's not expensive at all.

And yes she still complains.......

At 4:08 AM, Blogger Julie said...

Can she drop off her son anytime at all, like to go out partying? She's losing a free babysitter.
That is a shame, but I'm so glad that you have been so kind to her, and that she's getting the hell outta there!
I forget which base you said they were on. I'm thinking ocean view (oceana?) but the l.c. amfib got me confused. Norfolk is quite a trek from Hampton! Do you get a gas allowance too? :-)
Oh, and congrats on the decision to take it easy on each other while under the added stress. That is hard to do, but important. Good luck!

At 4:31 AM, Blogger Lola said...

Lord, some folks are just never satisfied! It makes me chuckle, but I suspect I wouldn't be quite so laid back about it if she were staying with me. Good for you and your dh for staying sane through it!

At 7:01 AM, Blogger lauralu said...

yea for interspousal communications! yea for I-mom leaving! now here's to evan getting better!

At 7:42 AM, Blogger Julie said...

We live in Newport News, and yeah it's a pretty long drive, but the only place we could find a DECENT place to live without it costing an arm and a leg. If we lived in Norfolk, we would easily be paying $300-$400 more than we do for the apartment we have. They work on a base in Norfolk, it's not NOB, but it's not far from it either. Right down Hampton Blvd from NOB. And nope, no gas allowance.

At 9:17 AM, Blogger Lorem ipsum said...

Hooray! I am kind of glad that command stuck their nose in, because your family life is important too. Besides, the Navy is still a business and it is important to them that their people are focused and meeting their responsibilities.

This is a good time to cut the cord - no babysitting for her now, free or not.

By the way, why did she join the Navy if she is so irresponsible? Or did she think that they'd whip her into shape?


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